Lights On, Fat Girl!

• Ten years as a plus-size sex worker.

• Seven years interviewing sexperts and relationship experts.

• Over a decade working with plus-size people, listening to their stories, and witnessing the daily, grinding reality of weight stigma up close.

 

All of that lived experience has taught me one thing very clearly:

Pleasure has no size limit.
 

But power, shame, entitlement and secrecy absolutely shape how it’s experienced — especially if you’re a fat woman.

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So where did all that knowledge take me?

Obviously… to running a sex party for fat people!

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After helping hundreds of fat women step into their sexual power, I’m finally putting it all that lived experience and advice into words. This is a life lived in sex, desire and passion - because I’m fat, not despite it.

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But there have been slippery slopes along the way.

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A big, flashing Red Flag needs slapping on the culture of so-called “admirers”. Liking fat women is not a personality trait, a political stance, or a free pass. This is a call to arms for all the big, beautiful women out there: you do not need someone who “likes curvy girls”.

You need someone who likes you.

 

Which brings me to this:

Auntie Miranda is here to tell all the fat girls out there to get sexy — and leave the lights on.

Let’s talk about abuse of power when you’re told your body isn’t attractive.
Let’s look at the real implications of being kept a “dirty little secret”.
Let’s explore why so many men think that liking a fat woman is enough to get their trousers bitten off.

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I’ll submit to you that our size is attractive, and I’ll keep reminding everyone of the thing society works hardest to make us forget:

Pleasure has no size limit.

Expect stories.
Expect tips.
Expect truth.

 

And expect plenty of reasons why you need to Leave the Lights On, Fat Girl.